Refocusing

Like a lot of women, I have a tendency to take on board and dwell on negative comments and sometimes dismiss compliments or not really believe them (e.g. “That piece you were playing sounded good” tends to meet with “Really? It was full of mistakes.”) I can sometimes fret for days about something bad someone has said, but the glow from a positive comment rarely lingers half as long. I guess negative comments tend to resonate more with our inner doubts and insecurities and therefore hit harder but the good things people say are just as likely to be true.